A Letter to my Husband--Warning!! Sexual Content

 

I recently sent my husband this email after asking him a question and getting an answer I didn't expect.  I like to check in with him periodically to see if he would appreciate any changes or additions to our sex life.  He said he would like a day to compose his answer, and I am patiently awaiting his response.

Honey I have some questions for you.  Sexually speaking I think I may be confused about what exactly turns you on.  As people, we are constantly evolving and changing and this is good, but I want to make sure we stay on the same page.  When I asked you today if you ever felt like telling me to get on my knees, calling me your slut, and fucking my mouth and you said no, it was confusing to me because you have done that before.  I enjoyed it, and you seemed to at the time as well.  So I guess I just want to discuss with you what you currently enjoy (obviously not that :) )  and what I currently enjoy.  I'll start with me, since I already know what I like.  As with everything in life, my wants and needs go through phases.  Right now, what turns me on the most is knowing that I am pleasing you and knowing that if I don't please you I will be punished (I know this is not reality, just a fantasy in my head as of now, but I enjoy thinking about it) in whatever way you choose. I also love sucking your cock and licking your balls. I love when I can do anything to give you pleasure. I just wish I knew more ways to do that.  I really enjoy being physically AND mentally dominated by you. 

Spanking a cold Bum

My husband took me shopping yesterday, for groceries, in 11 degree weather.  I'm so glad that he came because I got to sit in the car all toasty while he loaded up and put the cart away, woo-hoo!
When we got home I did help carry our stuff in, as it did require 3 trips from each of us to get it all in.  Now, you may not know this, but my husband is a booty smacker.  It's one of the things I love about him.  When we began dating and were getting close, discussing our expectations for a partner, I remember telling him: "I am all for chivalry and romance and equality, but I also want a man who's not afraid to smack my ass and tell me to get him another beer!" I was young, and it was as eloquent as I could be at the time :)  but he understood.  He took that as the green light to smack my bottom whenever he wanted, which I didn't protest, as we hadn't had the "spanking talk" yet, and I wasn't sure I wanted to at that point.  So, while I am spanked frequently, I also get a few swats here and there throughout the day just because he wants to and he can. But enough back-story,  back to the point .  After we got all the bags in Ash came up to me, turned me around, and began smacking my butt with his hand.  I jumped at squealed after the first few, as it hurt a lot more than a smack from a hand would. He got a mischievous twinkle in his eye then and asked "Oh, poor baby, does it hurt?"  To which I replied, "Yes! My ass is freezing from being out shopping and it hurts much more right now!"   He made a pouty face at me, then he smiled and I was told to bend over the couch! I tried to get out of it by telling him that I really needed to put the groceries away, but of course he said that could wait.  So I obeyed, pleading with him to use only his hand.  Thank goodness he listened, because he made me pull my pants and panties down and proceeded to smack away for at least a couple minutes. I didn't cry like usual, but I sure yelped and wriggled at lot! That seemed to satisfy him though :)  I think that I must forget every year that a cold bottom hurts more when spanked, because I never remember until he does it! I'd better be good now, though, as he's promised to make me sit in the snow bare-assed for a minute first if he has to punish me this month.  I told him that would never happen cause I am such an angel, but I don't think he believed me (the nerve!). 

MIA

Hello everyone! I have missed blogland and all of you :)  The holidays bring busy times with family in from out of town and children on vacation from school.  Also a major lack of spanking.  I am writing a new novel-length story and will post excerpts as I finish each chapter, starting next week.  Happy Holidays!

Come on honey, you know you want to turn it pink!

Implements: do you have any that you either prefer or can't stand?  What's the strangest thing you've been spanked with? Either point of view(ladies or gents) welcome.  My husband is a creative guy when it comes to whacking my butt. I've been spanked with a hanger, an un-braided leather belt, a small fry pan, a metal spoon, a yardstick, a dowel rod, and a long extension piece of my vacuum!

My personal favorite right now is the black leather belt that my husband fashioned into a spanking strap just for me :x It has just the right combination of bite and thud, and pretty easy to deal with for a couple of minutes. 

 I also hate like the new large wooden spatula that I brought home as a present for him recently (if he uses it moderately--not when he goes hard and fast!).  It's about palm-sized and heavy for a kitchen item.  If I had know just how stingy this thing is I may not have purchased it :)  

My least favorite is the big scary wood paddle. It's about an inch thick, yikes! It is mainly used for the "short sharp shock" type of spanking, or to make a point at the end of one. And boy does it! I avoid this thing like the plague.  It's strange, but it makes my cheeks feel numb and bee-stung at the same time

We also have a black plastic paddle.  It was our very first implement.  My husband took me to a store one town over that sold exclusively lingerie and sex toys/accessories.  After he helped me pick out the paddle, he made me be the one to bring it up and hand it to the young male clerk so he could pay for it! I think that may have been the most embarrassing thing I ever had to do :"> I blush easily and I'm sure I was lobster colored until we got home.

That about sums up our "collection".  He used to use a hairbrush too but recently broke that one one me. Lately Ash has told me that he wants a bigger paddle with holes for when I am particularly snapish or attitudey (his words, not mine!) I would really prefer that we don't get one.  However, I have a feeling that it, or something else sinister is going to find its way to me soon because today he had me sit on his lap and asked if I was naughty or nice.  I couldn't help but tell him how 'naughty' I've been, and he said "What should a naughty girl get in her Christmas stocking?"  I answered with, "A lump of coal!"  He just shook his head and grinned (quite evilly if you ask me!). I was kidding of course but I got the distinct impression that he wasn't. 

And The Answer is.......My HOH!

I love it when I try to do something I shouldn't and he doesn't let me! I don't do it on purpose, and I am mad at him at the time, but afterwards I realize my mistake and am so appreciative of him :)

Happy Love Our Lurkers Day!

For those of you who stop by to read but don't comment, this is your day! Please take this day to say hi and de-lurk for a moment.  I truly appreciate everyone who reads my blog and welcome the chance to tell you :)

A Spanking Every Hour

Update to: One Happy Woman......For Now!
Well, it is official. I am well-spanked!  Getting spanked every hour, on the hour from 9 am to 3 pm, and then again before bed at 10, didn't sound so bad when my husband Ash proposed the idea two days ago.  In fact, I was kind of excited.  I love to feel his power over me, even if I don't love the temporary pain.  The knowledge that I would be getting "taken in hand" so regularly revved my engine! Also, the spankings he gives me really help my overall pain levels, and I HATE having to ask him outright to spank me because it makes me feel like a naughty little girl confessing a misdeed and asking for her sentence to be handed down! That couldn't have anything to do with the delighted and devilish smirk he gets when I ask, could it?
 So I thought his idea was a good one and I was relieved to not have the embarrassment of asking for one day.  However, I didn't take into account the fact that he had given me a pretty rough belt whipping (at my request) the day he thought of this plan (Wednesday).  Luckily he didn't implement the hourly spankings until Thursday, but the areas that bruised and swelled from the belt were just as bad Thursday as they were the day I got them.
For my first spanking of the day at 9, I asked if we could speak about the state of my bottom before he began, and he said yes, but I had to get into position first! Smart man, too, because I definitely remember not to be sassy when I'm bent over for him.  I pointed out the areas I was concerned about, and he said, "Well, I guess your thighs are going to get it a lot today then."  So not what I was trying to say! True to his word, he did focus much of his loving attention on the very under-swell of my backside and the tops of my thighs, throughout the day's "activities". I was spanked with his hand, the big belt, the black plastic paddle, and  the back scratcher throughout the day, and a plastic dowel before bed.  Thankfully he didn't use the super scary big wood paddle at all.  That one always bruises and hurts quite badly. So this morning I am a vibrant mix of purple and blue blotches in the back, but I'm not too sore. Interestingly, Ash(who NEVER give a warm-up!) did do a warm-up session before each spanking in consideration of the state my bottom was already in.  While it helped me to be able to better tolerate each session, I'm not sure it helped prevent any more bruising.  In the end (no pun intended!) I consider the experiment a success.  I got a lot of attention, and Ash's arm and shoulder got a workout. We had fun, but I think I'll stick to my once or twice a day from now on. 

This is not my own backside, but the marks are similar to what I'm rockin' now!

One Happy Woman...For Now!!!!

Today I told my husband, who is not a natural "spanko" that I would probably always need more spanking than would naturally cross his mind.  I told him this because I thought he was getting bored with me.  I usually get spanked at least once a day, sometimes thoroughly and other times not so thoroughly.  This helps me in ways I can't really explain, but it reduces my overall physical pain level greatly.  He knows this and is always willing to help, but I want him to enjoy himself too! His response was, "Ok, for the next several days I will spank you every hour.  Every two minutes seems excessive, but every hour sounds good!"  Oh, what have I gotten myself into?  I will let you know how it goes if I can sit to type any time soon :)

Just another spanking meme.....

There is a part for the spanker and the spankee, so if you want to participate pick which one fits you and if you wish, ask your other half to answer their part!  It could be a good tool for couples to see if they're on the same page....... at the least, it could be entertaining.  In the interest of simplicity, I am assuming that the spanker is male and the spankee is female.  I know that this is not always the case, and no offense meant! Feel free to use/repost and change it to meet your needs :)  My husband and I filled these out separately and were a bit surprised at times by the others answers.  He is obviously a man of action, not words! Lol

For The Spanker:

What is your favorite position to have your naughty girl in when you spank her?
 bent over 

What do you prefer to spank her with?
my work belt 

Is there a ritual you use before, during or after a spanking? If yes, what is it and why is it important?
tell my wife that this is good for her and I rub her back after I'm done 

Are there other punishments you use and what are they?
none 

Do you have a set list of rules for your woman or are there just general guidelines?
just do what she's told to do

What is your main reason for having a spanking relationship?
To have her know who is boss and to help her with pain 

Is spanking ever sexual?  If not, is there ever incidental arousal on your part?
It is starting to get me more and more excited 

Would you ever spank her in public if she needed it?
No 

What do you think about her moving, making noise or crying out loud while you are spanking her? How does is make you feel and how does it affect how hard/long you spank?
It makes me laugh sometimes and gets me aroused when she starts to wiggle around  with her ass naked 

Have you/would you ever tell someone (not on the internet!) about this part of your relationship?
No 

 
For The Spankee:

What is your favorite position to be spanked in?
Over his lap

What do you prefer to be spanked with?
His hand, wooden spoon, or occasionally something thin and whippy

Does your HOH use rituals when he spanks you? How does it make you feel?
He usually makes me pull my pants down and get into position.  Sometimes I have to fetch the implement, and I always have to say thank you, but I am grateful so I don't mind.  I like the rituals and feel that they add to the atmosphere.

What other punishments/restrictions have been imposed on you?  Do you prefer those or spanking?
I have been sent to bed early,  I have a set bedtime during the week, a couple of times (years ago) I have had to sit naked in a chair in front of an open door in the winter time.  I prefer a spanking most of the time, but other punishments are effective too.

Do you have rules or guidelines, and if so, which are hardest for you to follow?
Just generally obey him and don't do things I know he doesn't want me to to.  I only have a hard time obeying when I really really want to do something but he doesn't want me to.

What is your motivation to be in a spanking relationship?
I have craved this kind of relationship for forever, and am naturally submissive only to my husband.  I do it for our mutual happiness. 

Is spanking ever sexual for you?  Even if it's not, does your body ever respond with arousal to a spanking?
Yes, there is always an element of sex for me, even if it's purely punishment.  I love the D/s flavor of my marriage and anytime my husband takes control of me it turns me on a little :) 

Would you ever act out/challenge your man in public? If so, what do you hope his response would be?
I have before, but never on purpose.  Actually, this week while out shopping he threatened to take me to the kitchen-ware section and find a spatula to smack me with if I didn't stop being sassy.  I said "You wouldn't spank me here!?!" in a whisper, but the look he gave me made me unsure and I was very polite after that.  I think he might've given me a swat or two, actually.  A great fantasy but I think it would be highly embarrassing to experience. 

Do you ever move, make noise or cry out loud while you are being spanked? Do you feel like it makes a difference in how long/hard you are spanked?
I always do my best not to move much, though I sometimes have a hard time.  I also do my best to limit the noise I make, as I would never want someone besides my husband to hear me! I do think that when I am genuinely crying it makes my man want to stop, although for me to really get an emotional release I need a few minutes longer at least. 

Have you/would you ever tell someone (not on the internet!) about this part of your relationship?
I kind of did once, on accident.  I went with a friend to the swimming pool and I wore shorts over my bathing suit.  She asked why, and I said that I had gotten into trouble, but didn't elaborate and she didn't ask questions after that. 

How I Feel About Spanking......In Photos

BEFORE

Apprehensive, nervous, scared, sometimes defiant

DURING

Sorry, helpless,self-pity, sad

AFTER

Loved, calm, happy, submissive

Why do I Want to Bite my Husband When he Spanks me?

I wonder if I am alone in this feeling?  In the big picture, I want my husband to spank me anytime he feels it would benefit me/him/us.  But as soon as I know I will be getting a spanking soon, I get nervous.  I hesitate when he calls me over, I pull my pants down when asked but then try to tug my shirt lower.  It takes forever for me to get into position, hoping to delay the process, but I get hurried along with swats anyway.  As my butt is being rained upon by a fiery brush that must have come from hell, all I can think about is how much it hurts and try to stay in position.  If I am spanked long enough, usually a few minutes after I start really crying, I turn into an obedient angel ready and willing to please my husband.  However, if he stops short of that, I come up trying desperately not to utter the words waiting to spring forth from my tongue. Words like bigmeaniestupidheadIdon'tlikeyourightnow! and goawaythathurtyoua-hole!  Words that needless to say(but I'm still saying it!), are generally not well received.  This is what happened today. I am sitting on a freshly spanked backside at the moment and have been ordered asked by my husband to write about my feelings and view of the experience. So, in mostly non-fiction format, here is how I experienced my spanking:

"Okay, it's time.  Go fetch the brush," Ash said, looking at his beautiful wife of 10 years.  "Already? How come I have to go get it?" she replied feeling embarrassed that she had to do this, not quite whining but close.  "Because I have the power, and I order you to get it," he told her, daring her with a stern look to push the issue.  He knew that the real answer was that it was a sign of his dominance and her submission, and it helped put her in the right mindset to be disciplined, but he waited for her to comply without further explanation. "Fine, but I have to use the bathroom first," she said, reluctantly getting up from her perch on the sofa and heading to the bathroom.  Once inside, she prepared for her impending fate by using the facilities, brushing her hair, pulling all the hair out of the brush that was there from before and examining different items on the counter before she was rudely interrupted by a knock and a "Hurry up in there!" from the bossy gentleman outside the door.  Time to face the music.  She opened the door and handed the instrument of her doom to the man that was about to demonstrate his love for her in a very unconventional way.
She went to her usual spot over the back of the couch when she heard "Pants down, young lady."

If a Woman Needs it, Should she be Spanked?

Notice how no one said no? I would have liked to hear the answers from the ladies of that day too!

My first "preemptive" spanking

The above picture is exactly how I was feeling when my husband told me to bend over the bed today.  I had just showered and was looking for clothes to wear while simultaneously picking up upstairs and doing laundry.  He had asked me what I was doing, and when I told him, his response was "Get on the bed, head down ass up."  "What?!" I asked,"I was just cleaning, and I wasn't trying to give you attitude!"  He never changes his mind once he thinks I need to be spanked, so I complied even though I thought it was totally unfair.  I heard him open the side table drawer, then some rummaging around.  Then, the first strike of the big wood paddle.  Frickin' ouch! That paddle is not my favorite, as it is almost an inch thick by 8 inches wide and 9 inches long, and it bruises almost every time he uses it.  I was in tears after the 5th or 6th swat.  It did hurt a lot, but I mostly cried because I felt like he was being unfair.  I didn't realize at the time that the

Sent to bed early without dinner, because I am a dork!

Okay, so this is a weird one, even for me.  I sometimes take a muscle relaxer for some of the medical issues I face,  and Wednesday this week I ended up using one.  I only use them when I can't stand the symptoms anymore and I want to chew my own arm off. They are potent, so I only took a half but I still had to deal with the side effects of the pill: feeling quite loopy and groggy.  I also don't drink often, but my sweet husband had brought me a beer home from the store and it sounded good, so when he asked if I wanted it I said "Sure, thanks honey.  That sounds great!"  Now, before you begin mentally chastising me, the pill hadn't quite kicked in yet at that point, and we had both forgotten that I had taken it.  Still, I should have known better: it was truly dorky behavior.  Within an hour of drinking one beer I could hardly stand up and could NOT stop yawning.
 I was trying to make dinner when my husband noticed my zombie-like state.  He asked me if I was okay, then realized that I had drank alcohol and taken a muscle relaxer at pretty much the same time. He asked me

Imagination

Sometimes, a picture that may not be specifically geared toward spanking can spark the imagination nonetheless.  What do you imagine happened here, with the expression on her face and the oar in the water? Maybe she was acting up in the boat and jumped out to avoid an imminent spanking.  Maybe she was getting into the boat but was smacked on her booty with an oar and fell out! What do you think could have happened?      

What about this one? Perhaps getting ready for a bedtime spanking or.........?
                                                                                          

 photos by https://www.facebook.com/LostPinup

Ladies: Are You an Askhole, or do You Know One?

As the submissive partner in a DD relationship, I find myself seeking my husband's counsel on occasion.  Whether it's about my choice of clothing, what we should have for dinner, or a more pertinent issue, I resolve to take his advise before I even ask.  I think that it quite undermines an HOH's sense of "being at the helm of the ship" so to speak, if his opinions are taken lightly.

What do you think?  I am interested in both the husband's and wife's point of view.  Are you the asker or the askee? How do you feel about advising someone/being advised by someone and whether or not they take your advise to heart?

Wax on, wax off

For those of you ladies who prefer to keep parts of your body hairless (or if your husband prefers anyway) I have just made a batch of sugar wax and it was so simple and cheap that I couldn't help but want to share!  I made my own reusable waxing strips out of some leftover cotton I had from an old sewing project. I just cut material into 4"x2" strips and hemmed the edges so they don't fray in the wash.  Here is the link to the recipe with a how-to video(scroll down below recipe).  Happy waxing! http://beautytoptotoe.com/homemade-sugar-wax-recipe-home-waxing-made-easy/
 

Asking for it

I got spanked today.  No, I wasn't in trouble, it was a "medicine" spanking.  I have a medical condition that causes severe pain in my muscles and joints, and there are few effective treatments for it.  The treatments there are happen to have pretty bad side effects as well, so I choose not to take them.  Quite by accident, I found out that when my husband spanks me (it has to be fairly hard and at least a couple of minutes) the pain in my joints is drastically reduced for at least several hours! I have no idea why this is so, or how it works but I am thankful to have a pain-reliever that has no harmful side effects. Yes, it hurts.  But I'll take a few minutes of hot buns to avoid raw aching pain all over with every move I make (but ask me right before i am to be spanked and I'm not so sure!)  So in order for me to live with as little pain as possible, he administers spankings to my bouncing behind at least every other day, sometimes multiple times in a day.

What Turns You On?

When you choose a spanking story to read, what qualities do you look for? What kinds of spankings turn you on?  Discipline, erotic, D/s, public, fanfic? Are there certain elements of a story guaranteed to melt your heart, make you swoon with desire, or make you long to be one of the main characters? Is there a time period you like best, such as the 1800's, contemporary, or the future?  What about alternate realities? There are so so so many aspects to consider when choosing the setting and plot of a good novel vs. a short story.  A good novel will leave you with wet panties over and over, whereas a well-written short story makes you want to find your sexual partner right. this. instant. to fulfill those desires.
 I would like to know: what are some of your favorites and why?

Shower, Interrupted

Author's note: this is an unedited copy. 

I had just finished soaping myself all over with the fragrant shower gel on my loofah, scrubbing gently in all my nooks and crannies and luxuriating in the heady floral smell and the slippery feel of the soap bubbles popping all over my body.  Now came the best part.  I turned the water up a little warmer and adjusted the spray so it was soft, like a heavy rain shower and leaned against the shower wall as wave after wave of warm water cascaded down over me.  This was the ultimate in relaxation, to hell with conserving water and energy! After what seemed like much too short a time, I could feel the water begin to cool again.  Damn, the hot water was running out. As I reached down to adjust the temperature, a hand suddenly clasped over mine.
 I gasped in shock, and felt adrenaline course through me as the fight or flight instinct suddenly took over and I prepared to kick some intruder ass. I looked up at my would-be attacker only to find my husband grinning at me.  "Logan! You scared me you ass!" I said as I glared accusingly at him.  "Jumpy this morning are we?" He retorted, his smile deepening.  "Well I am now, but I don't see why it makes you so happy," I said, trying not to be won over by his infectious grin.  "Well, sweetheart, the reason for my joy is that I get to interrupt your shower routine this morning, as you interrupted mine yesterday morning."  Apparently I had missed something because I had no clue what he was talking about, and I told him so. His look turned more serious.  "Jennifer, do you mean to tell me you have completely forgotten that you used all the hot water yesterday morning immediately after I reminded you not to?"  "Oh, that.  Um, yeah I guess I did.  I am sorry about that, but it doesn't give you the right to scare me half to death!" Once again that shit-eating grin adorned Logan's face as though he had a secret and it just thrilled him.

 "Why are you looking at me like that?" I questioned, since he obviously had something up his sleeve.  "Because I know why you used all the hot water yesterday," he gloated.  Immediately blood rushed to my cheeks as my embarrassment colored my face.  "You forgot to change the spray setting back to normal on the shower head before you got out.  And we both know that there is only one reason that you use the strong pulsing setting on the nozzle." I wanted to shrivel up and die on the spot.  He knew I had been masturbating with the shower head! I had been practicing every now and then because I wanted to be able to orgasm on my own, something I hadn't been able to do for a long time.  I had to have him inside me to be able to come and he knew it, the smug bastard. I had always thought that he was pleased by this, and my suspicions were confirmed when he began to talk again.

And in the Beginning......

Hello people of blogland, and welcome to my imagination.  I will be posting stories I write from real life experience and from wishful thinking, about events in D/s, DD and just plain kinky, relationships.  There may even be some fanfic involved!  I welcome story requests from readers as well as feedback.