Just another spanking meme.....

There is a part for the spanker and the spankee, so if you want to participate pick which one fits you and if you wish, ask your other half to answer their part!  It could be a good tool for couples to see if they're on the same page....... at the least, it could be entertaining.  In the interest of simplicity, I am assuming that the spanker is male and the spankee is female.  I know that this is not always the case, and no offense meant! Feel free to use/repost and change it to meet your needs :)  My husband and I filled these out separately and were a bit surprised at times by the others answers.  He is obviously a man of action, not words! Lol

For The Spanker:

What is your favorite position to have your naughty girl in when you spank her?
 bent over 

What do you prefer to spank her with?
my work belt 

Is there a ritual you use before, during or after a spanking? If yes, what is it and why is it important?
tell my wife that this is good for her and I rub her back after I'm done 

Are there other punishments you use and what are they?
none 

Do you have a set list of rules for your woman or are there just general guidelines?
just do what she's told to do

What is your main reason for having a spanking relationship?
To have her know who is boss and to help her with pain 

Is spanking ever sexual?  If not, is there ever incidental arousal on your part?
It is starting to get me more and more excited 

Would you ever spank her in public if she needed it?
No 

What do you think about her moving, making noise or crying out loud while you are spanking her? How does is make you feel and how does it affect how hard/long you spank?
It makes me laugh sometimes and gets me aroused when she starts to wiggle around  with her ass naked 

Have you/would you ever tell someone (not on the internet!) about this part of your relationship?
No 

 
For The Spankee:

What is your favorite position to be spanked in?
Over his lap

What do you prefer to be spanked with?
His hand, wooden spoon, or occasionally something thin and whippy

Does your HOH use rituals when he spanks you? How does it make you feel?
He usually makes me pull my pants down and get into position.  Sometimes I have to fetch the implement, and I always have to say thank you, but I am grateful so I don't mind.  I like the rituals and feel that they add to the atmosphere.

What other punishments/restrictions have been imposed on you?  Do you prefer those or spanking?
I have been sent to bed early,  I have a set bedtime during the week, a couple of times (years ago) I have had to sit naked in a chair in front of an open door in the winter time.  I prefer a spanking most of the time, but other punishments are effective too.

Do you have rules or guidelines, and if so, which are hardest for you to follow?
Just generally obey him and don't do things I know he doesn't want me to to.  I only have a hard time obeying when I really really want to do something but he doesn't want me to.

What is your motivation to be in a spanking relationship?
I have craved this kind of relationship for forever, and am naturally submissive only to my husband.  I do it for our mutual happiness. 

Is spanking ever sexual for you?  Even if it's not, does your body ever respond with arousal to a spanking?
Yes, there is always an element of sex for me, even if it's purely punishment.  I love the D/s flavor of my marriage and anytime my husband takes control of me it turns me on a little :) 

Would you ever act out/challenge your man in public? If so, what do you hope his response would be?
I have before, but never on purpose.  Actually, this week while out shopping he threatened to take me to the kitchen-ware section and find a spatula to smack me with if I didn't stop being sassy.  I said "You wouldn't spank me here!?!" in a whisper, but the look he gave me made me unsure and I was very polite after that.  I think he might've given me a swat or two, actually.  A great fantasy but I think it would be highly embarrassing to experience. 

Do you ever move, make noise or cry out loud while you are being spanked? Do you feel like it makes a difference in how long/hard you are spanked?
I always do my best not to move much, though I sometimes have a hard time.  I also do my best to limit the noise I make, as I would never want someone besides my husband to hear me! I do think that when I am genuinely crying it makes my man want to stop, although for me to really get an emotional release I need a few minutes longer at least. 

Have you/would you ever tell someone (not on the internet!) about this part of your relationship?
I kind of did once, on accident.  I went with a friend to the swimming pool and I wore shorts over my bathing suit.  She asked why, and I said that I had gotten into trouble, but didn't elaborate and she didn't ask questions after that.