I knew he was right but it was kind of hard to be sorry when he didn't want to listen to my directions in the first place, which is what caused the frustration and snippy tone of voice on my part. But after a few moments of seeing that "look" in his eyes-the "you are cruisin' for a bruisin'" look-and hearing his chastising words, I came to my senses and apologized. I was
I haven't really been in much trouble lately, just little things here and there which he quickly takes care of. I have really been too busy lately to get into much mischief, but he has also been watching me pretty closely and stopping even the hint of defiance or attitude....and giving lots of praise that makes my heart{and other places!} melt. So the only "real"{aka more than a minute/tears involved}spanking I've gotten this week was for r/a and pain management on Tuesday. For the warm-up he brought out the first implement we ever bought, a black plastic paddle. It's thin but fairly dense-no idea what it's made of-and big enough to cover both cheeks. I had really forgotten how much it stings! In order for a spanking to impact the pain in the rest of my body, it has to be pretty painful so he decided to use the horrible cable flogger I made him for the main event.
He had me lay over a pillow on the bed and sat next to me, and then the horror began. I was trying to claw away from him by the third stroke, but he had a hold on the back of my shirt and used it to keep me where he wanted. It was over relatively quickly, maybe 2 minutes, but I was sweaty and sobbing afterward. The pain was just so intense, and hard to wrap my head around. It took some time for me to calm down, but when I did he noticed that there were loop shaped welts all along the outer part of my left butt cheek toward my hip. It would have been no big deal, but there had been no warm up given to that part of my flesh. Thus the intense and overwhelming pain! He felt really bad, but the welts didn't start to raise until he was done, so he couldn't have known. Guess what his response was after cuddles and kisses? "I guess I will just have to make sure I warm you up very thoroughly next time and practice my aim more often!" Yep, that's my husband.
We made one of those when we first started. I hated it. Not so much for the pain, but the type of pain. Funny I think they don't 'get' sometimes how to adjust for the implement in hand. Anyway Barney was mortified at what it did to my body ( again this was in the beginning) so it was tossed after a few times.
ReplyDeleteFor me I need to process the pain to let go- that thing was just annoying! Again, I have had more painful implements since, but the slappy, stingy thing, especially for r/a doesn't work for me. Not too mention the bruising ( although I doubt it would be the same now that I am Tough Butt LOL). Happy it worked for you though.
We are off to do groceries this morning, and although I have had my coffee, I am in a foul mood.....not good, not good at all.
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willie
Hi Willie,
DeleteI'm so sorry you're in a bad mood. Not fun to have to go out in public and pretend to be happy when you aren't feeling it :-( The cables didn't leave any bruises, just welts that faded into purple marks that night then disappeared the next day. It didn't look bad :-) I think what he wants to avoid next time is giving me the type of pain that makes me panic because it took a while for me to calm down after. Good luck on your trip today and I hope you get cheery soon!
Wait, that sounds like MY husband! What is your husband's name? Are you sure he is your husband? LOL SM does that very same thing! Very little sympathy and just goes into the technicalities of how to improve on the spanking. He recently spanked me with a belt and wasn't being very careful (in my opinion) because he was using it similarly to a whip (wasn't looped) and the tip caught me somewhere special!!! Ouchie!!!
ReplyDeleteSorry about your welty bum. Hope it doesn't hurt long. Arnica maybe?
sara :)
Sara, I'm beginning to think that many hohs are part of a collective hive mind....scary! But really it must be a man thing I guess.....to focus on the
Deletemechanics of it. Thanks for three sympathy though, as blogland is the only place I get any ;-)
Oh gosh, my husband rarely uses implements and I've been trying to encourage more use, but stories like these remind me that I need to be careful what I wish for! Luckily, he always warms me up with his hand--the problem is, he doesn't move onto anything else, haha.
ReplyDeleteAnd that stern reminder in a public place would have made me melt into a puddle in the aisle!
Wow, I don't usually get warm ups and he rarely spanks by hand. He only recently began warming me up after I asked him to read an article about it :-) I did feel all melty and definitely well chastised after that!
DeleteSounds like my husband when it comes to him making a mistake in my spanking. Next time....... Lol
ReplyDeleteMen, huh? :-)
DeleteLove how he's there to help you before you spin out of control. :) Sounds like quite the spanking, but I'm glad it helps you. You really are blessed by having him there for you. :)
ReplyDelete{{{hugs}}} EsMay
Thank you EsMay, he really is a blessing to me :-)
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