Wednesday, July 16, 2014

Just Us

I would like to apologize for the dramatic posts lately. I claim PMS as my only real excuse. Sometimes things just seem so hopeless and huge in the moment, ya know? So after my last post, I wrote to my husband and detailed why I was so worked up. I tried to better explain myself and made sure to reiterate and expound upon the key points, and wonder of wonders, he got it! We have talked at length since then about what I wrote and how we both feel about the issues I brought up. And even though I am still struggling with some things, the simple act of sharing with him made me feel so much better! He told me that he knew he had been lax with me since the kids have been out of school. He was aware that he had been less "Hoh-ey" as well. He even remarked that he missed the closeness that almost daily spankings brought. But most importantly to me, he understands now that I need him to DO SOMETHING about these things. To be fair, he does work a lot. But, he has promised to carve out time for us to just be "us" without having to worry about little eyes and ears. And he has decided that I have grown too big for my britches in the last couple of months, talking back(which I NEVER do of course) a bit too often. So I am trying extra hard to watch my P's and Q's and be respectful, but I usually fall flat on my face on this matter at least a couple times a week  :(  Tomorrow is our first kid-free together time, so hopefully only a short amount of that time will be spent with only me undressed. As much as I know it's beneficial and totally necessary, it sucks getting spanked! I apologize if there are many spelling/punctuation errors. Mobile blogger doesn't have spellcheck and its really late  :) Hope everyone is having a good week so far!

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  1. I honestly believe there is absolutely no need for apologies to us. That is how you felt at the time and writing is processing ( and personally I can't even recall a post that was DRAMATIC).

    I am happy to hear that Ash HEARD you in your conversation. That is wonderful. Here is hoping things progress back toward an area you both long to be in. ( My 'love' of summer vacation now has been skewed somewhat this past two years! lol)

    Best of Luck!
    willie

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    1. Thanks Willie,
      That is my fervent hope, to progress to where we want to be....even if it's slow and there are setbacks. Funny, but I don't recall having these issues last summer. I think that's party of the reason I was so upset, was that I KNOW there are ways to make active DD work even with kids home, because we've done it many tomes before. I hope things are improving for you and Barney too.
      Love,
      River

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  2. Re-found you! I can't quite imagine how hard it could get with kids and summer but have watched friends struggle through it.

    Hope you two have a great day together tomorrow!

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    1. Hi Susie,
      So glad you re-found me! Having kids around 24/7 does make it more of a challenge, but it is do-able! After my "reminder" to him (or breakdown?) he has decided that it's worth the extra effort. Our "date" us in 10 minutes, hopefully I can still sit afterwards, but I an looking forward to the reconnection :-)

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  3. Hey River...really don't think any apologies are necessary...your blog is for you to write whatever you want...many use their blogs to process their feelings and thoughts. It's your blog...post whatever you want. Oh and btw...didn't really see anything that dramatic here. ;)

    Hope you and Ash find a way to stay connected and consistent with all the little people around. ;)

    Hugs and Blessings...
    Cat

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    1. Hi Cat,
      Thank you for your kind words. I'm glad you didn't think my posts were overly dramatic, I just really don't want this blog to be a record of complaints and whining. I need to remember to share the good too. Things are actually much better now, I am in the process of writing all about it :-)
      Love,
      River

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  4. Hi River, sorry for the late comment (holiday). And I like drama, but seriously, there is no reason to apologize for anything from your side, because you only stated what you felt…in your blog…the way you wanted it. I think that you did it just right. Besides, I think PMS is a good excuse for almost everything. Chocolate, dear? :D River, I am glad that you and Ash talked things through, even more, because it made you feel better and you and Ash saw what has been missing or went wrong. I love those moments when you see that and are able to find a way out.
    When Ash is more Hoh-ey again you might be in for some of the not-so-nice spankings, but I keep my fingers crossed for your wish being fulfilled (the one about undressing). Enjoy your holiday and loads of quality time with Ash!

    hugs

    Nina

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    1. Thanks for the kind words Nina, you always understand! And I will never refuse chocolate :)

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